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Showing posts with label Acceptance. Show all posts
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Wednesday, 31 July 2019

The Way Mother Nature Wired Me: Highly sensitive with mental illness.

 The Way Mother Nature Wired Me: Highly sensitive with mental illness.


Approximately fifteen to twenty percent of the population are what's known as highly sensitive. Individuals who fit this description, are often referred to as a highly sensitive person or HSP. HSPs present with certain behavioural traits that aren't shared with the greater population. The highly sensitive person is easily over stimulated and more observant, noticing things in their surroundings that non HSPs do not. There are a whole hosts of traits that come with being  highly sensitive.

Think you may be a highly sensitive person? Go here: HSP self test

Dr. Elaine Aron, Ph D, author of  The Highly Sensitive Person and The Highly Sensitive Person In Love, is a pioneer in the study of people with HSP, She does a brilliant job helping those with this behavioural trait to understand what HSP is and how it impacts the fifteen to twenty percent who have it. 

In her books, she offers up real life examples and sound research, she shows the reader that, while being highly sensitive can be difficult because of the world's noise, the moods of others and because HSPs tend to  be easily overwhelmed by sensory inputs; its an innate quality that this portion of the population have, not a sign of weakness. What I love most her approach is that she teaches people to embrace it and live within its tolerances. 

In my wellness journey, I have discovered that I am, in all likelihood, a member of this populous. I score very high on the self tests for HSP and can see myself as I read her book. After hours and hours of working towards a solution to my diagnosis of  PTSD, Discovering that I am also highly sensitive has given me a fuller, more complete picture of why I am so impacted by, not only PTSD but my other mental health conditions.

I believe now that the way I am wired has a lot to do with why I sit before this computer, hammering out this blog post. The traits that are associated with being an HSP  are not at all conducive to the path I took in life; life as a firefighter and  a care worker for persons with disabilities and severe behaviour difficulties. I did more than worked in these noisy, over stimulating environments, I felt each and every tragic incident experienced in those two professions. Twenty years of death, noise and destruction.

Now, like that of my mental illnesses, I am learning to embrace and except the way mother nature wired me. When I give myself permission to accept that I am a highly sensitive persons, I am just a bit more liberated from my mental pain and a little further down the road to mental wellness.


If you would like to learn more, pick up a copy of Dr. Elaine Aron's books below.


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Tuesday, 16 July 2019

Pursuing Your Dreams With Mentally Illness.

Pursuing Your Dreams With Mentally Illness.

So you have a passion, and...... You have a mental illness. Now what? How does one chase a dream through the foggy dark world of dread, convince their mental health condition to behave, just well enough to make any given dream a reality? This question is something I have wrestled with since I was in my teens. Fortunately, the majority of the time, I have been able to come out on top, fighting through the fog to have a few dreams realized.

Steps to make your dreams come alive.

Sadly, there have been times in my life when I have also been blinded by this fog the degree where I literally lost my way. This round, I am really lost and for the first time, I have no idea how to find my way back on the road to mental wellness. At least this is how it feels. That said,  I'll be dammed if I remain lost forever. I have things I want to do, goals I need to complete, so I will crawl my way out if I must.

You might be saying, "it's great to be so determined, but how do you plan to do that when you struggle to leave the house?" Well, I live by two words, acceptances and customization. As far as I'm concerned, acceptance and customization are fundamental for success when one is on a life long mental health roller coaster ride.

Before going any further, I must explain why I have adopted these two concepts into my life's journey. If your journey is as turbulent as mine has been, then you need to find something to help you be as functional and productive as you can. Hence, for me, acceptance and customization are how I achieve my goals and dreams.

Acceptance seems fairly straightforward, simply embrace what's in front of you and get over it. But, as anyone with anxiety, for example, can tell you, that "just accept it" doesn't work. Try running an electronic without a battery. Many others with different mental disorders also can't easily turn it off. Mentally ill, your mind is hijacked, whilst the mentally well is more adept at not getting stuck on their troubles. 

I know I can't simply get over what my brain does (illness) so I have to accept it. I may never be able to extend my threshold far enough to get back to where I once was mental. Acknowledging this allows me to build a life that is within my range of normalcy. (Customization)  I believe that we are all on a spectrum of sorts, some can go full speed, all the time, others, this simply isn't so. It isn't so because it just can't be so.

Understanding the stigma against mental illness.

I am now trying to tailor my life around what I can do and not what I can't. If there are days when I can't face the day as I did yesterday then I don't. If all I can do today is finish writing this sentence, I'm ok with that. I will get the pics up tomorrow.


Writing is wonderful, not only for its creative freedom but also for its inherent flexibility. It doesn't care if I leave it half done, til I am well enough to pick it up again. I want to totally customize my life off of, and around writing. I will succeed in my quest to live again! How do you customize your life so you can get busy pursuing your dreams with mental illness?